A Weekend Getaway To Jogjakarta

, by aqessa



Last week I had a little holiday in the weekend with my office collagues to Jogjakarta. It was a very nice short trip! I never missed Borobudur Temple and Malioboro street everytime i visit Jogjakarta. But this trip is different. 

We were using night train Business Class when we were heading to Jogja.
The train wasn't that clean. :(

Breakfast with some meat in Soto Pak H. Sholeh.


Hahaha doesn't it scary?!!!

Another culinary time, lunch at Je Jamuran. Sooo delicious since i like mushroom!



First, I visit the Ullen Sentalu Museum in Kaliurang, the museum of royal treasure of Javanese. Actually the place is very nice with beautiful interior/exterior and very artsy. If you see the the front side, you will think what kind of place is this.. It's just like random woods and trees everywhere, truns out it's so beautiful. Also, there's a place that many little girls took traditional dance lesson. Too bad they forbid us to take picture. And because there's a lot of paintings and sculpture of Javanese royal family and God/Goddess from Javanese belief, the museum a little bit creepy.. hehehe. 

Me in front of the museum, feels like lost in the woods :P







Beautiful Batik store in Ullen Sentalu Museum




There's a lot of story how a price became a king, a king who chose his mother as the first lady, how some kings brought the glory days for Java, also a story that every king in Java have to make (at least) one traditional dance that represent the culture and the society of Java. 


Drank traditional drink (jamu). They said the drink makes us stay younger ;;)
But my favorite is the story of the lady that performed serimpi in Europe. She was a dream-lady for every guy because she's very pretty and talented. And since she's a part of royal family in Jogjakarta, she must be very classy that time. She dances beautifully, she danced in Europe and the gamelan music broadcasted through the radio, because there was no way to bring whole gamelan team accross the continent that time. She was married at age 30, the age that too old for marriage that time. And that was because she didn't agree with polygamy, that's why she didn't want to marry an aristrocrat (in that time, royal family used to have more than one mistress). She decided to marry a regular guy (I think he was a military guy) at age 30. She's still alive until now and lived in Bandung with her grandchildren. She's 80 something or 90 something now.


Ullen Sentalu's backyard
And my favorite painting is the painting of a mystic sacred dance that involved Ratu Pantai Selatan (The Queen of South Coast), Nyai Roro Kidul. The dance is like a story of mystic marriage. Because of that dance, the myth said that every king in Java used to married with Ratu Pantai Selatan. The dance was very mystic, with 9 dancers wearing Javanese marriage costume, nine represents nine lust and represent the compass heading (east, southeast, south, southwest, west, northwest, north, northeast), the dance can only be seen by some people (the royal family), and sometimes--they said--Ratu Pantai Selatan also dancing with the 9 women but only the King could see her. The painting was very coool! Ratu Pantai Selatan painted as a shadow. It was very artsy.
I also learn about batik philosophy, it was so cool. Now i'll be more picky everytime want to buy batik! LOL. Also a philosophy of Javanese marriage costume. The five black mark in the woman's head and five gold flower in the hair represent five pray times in Islam / five terms of being Moslem. That a woman should have faith and religious as a wife and a mother. The one mark in forehead, that means one eye to focus on her husband. The eyebrows that drawed like a deer's horn means a woman should energetic and active like deer. The three layers necklace of dragon means a woman should be strong and help her husband to get a glory. What a hard job being a wife! Hahahaha.


Prambanan temple as background.. Love it!



With the dancers (Rama, Shinta, Laksmana, Shinta's guardians)

At night, I watched the traditional ballet dance 'Ramayana' (an epic story from Mahabarata) in Prambanan. It was SOOOO COOOOOLLLL! Many people said it was boring, but I was curious how they danced it since I knew the story of Rama-Shinta. The best thing is, it was full moon, so they did outdoor performance with Prambanan Temple as the background. It was so cool and romantic. And it was raining! Hahahaha, they prepared well and gave us umbrella. I am not a person who understand with the philosophy of some dance moves, but I can feel it in my heart (well, in some segment i almost got sleep too!). Rama's and Laksmana's feet moved beautifully. 


The Hanuman was arrested by Rahwana, and Rahwana planned to kill him by burning him!

The Hanuman rise from the fire and burned Rahwana's land.

I love the part when Rama hunted the deer, and the deer danced by a woman with bells in her feet. The dance moves was like so seductive, like represented a deer. Fast, tempting, seductive, but when you tried to catched deer, they would quickly run. 
And my favorite part was when The Hanuman arrested by the Giant Rahwana and they burned him, but fire just made him stronger. The dancer danced energetically and jump accross the fire then burnt the hay. It was epic!


Rama & Laksmana successfully killed Rahwana

Shinta after being saved by the God of Fire to proved that she was saint
Finally Rama met Shinta and belived that Shinta was saint.

The couple finally reunited

And finally Rama met Shinta, but he didn't trust Shinta. He thought Shinta was no longer saint after being captured by Rahwana. The dance moves was really represent Rama's doubt but he still loves Shinta but he was angry that he couldn't trust her. So he asked Shinta to burn herself in the fire, if she was saint, she would not be die. And Shinta burned herself to the fire and saved by The God of Fire, that proved that she was saint. And then they got closer, like two people that had been seperated for long long time, they missed each other, then they met again and they still love each other. It was epic. It was beautiful.


Thanks Dishub and PT KAI, the train provides the electricity so I charge my gadget.

Turns out the economy class is better than the business class

Killing time with playing cards. God of gamblers! xD

Bring Uno Cards for your trip is a must!

Hello, Mr Farmer!

My friend got punished after loosing in Uno game

The kindergarten painting was reaaaal


Told you, it was a very nice trip with train, green scenery, rain falls, and books!

Beautiful scenery!!!


Since we were using economy class with air conditioner train, the train usually stop in (almost) every station. I love the trip! I could see many beautiful scenery of rice field, river, hills, and then stop for awhile just to feel the air and the breeze! And the best thing was... the rain was fall that day. Train, rain, green scenery, how can't i sleep during the trip! 

It was my best weekend getaway. :)




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Lily Collins and Her Signature Eyebrows (Glamour, Aug 2012)

, by aqessa


I like her! Since the first time I saw her in The Blind Side. See her interview with Glamour here:
Glamour: What'd you think when you found out Victoria had chosen you for this issue?
Lily Collins: I was so honored! I grew up adoring the Spice Girls. And you can't touch her when it comes to fashion. She owns every outfit she wears. I don't know how she handles all of those kids—and in heels!
Glamour: What's your approach with makeup?
LC: Less is more. When I travel to Europe, I go days without putting anything on. It feels healthier. I just never understood the idea of caking it on. The more you have on your face, the more there is to smudge and go wrong.
Glamour: Your eyebrows have become your signature. How does it feel to have one part of your body be so obsessed over?
LC: Big brows weren't the look in L.A., where I grew up. But my mom instilled in me that it's the quirky things that make you beautiful.

Glamour: You've worked with the most beautiful women in Hollywood. Picked up any tips?
LC: With Sandra Bullock, Julia Roberts, Julianne Moore, and Jennifer Connelly, they weren't fussy with hair and makeup. They all exude this inner and outer beauty. I learned that no matter how big you get, it's still important not to let anything go to your head.
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Teen Vogue Fashion Photography

, by aqessa



Photography created to make you feel something everytime you see the picture. It captures life. Since the first time i read Teen Vogue, I fall in love with its fashion photography. They usually using a professional and senior photographer. No doubt the pictures always look stunning!












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We Are Not Afraid of Death, We Are Afraid to Leave Without Saying Goodbye

, by aqessa

"We're not afraid to death. We are afraid to leave without saying goodbye."

Photo from: Flickr

A few days ago I heard a news from Grandma that my nanny when I was a kid passed away last month. Nobody told us when she passed away, Grandma knew when she visited her house in Sukabumi and when she asked about my nanny to the neighbors, they told her that Bibi (that's how I called her) has passed away last month. Grandma told Mum, and Mum told us a few days later after she was back from Sukabumi.

We are shocked and sad.

Nobody could believe when people they knew suddenly passed away. It's been a very very very long time never heard about her, never seen her, never try to visit her house when we're in Sukabumi. Last time I met her was high school I guess. She wasn't work for us anymore, she was just visited my house while she was in my town. And she met my first boyfriend, and she said he looked like some Indonesian soap opera actor hahaha.

There were very tough year for her. When one of her son passed away. The son who was ill that time because he fell down from tree, who gave her reason to leave my family. And we met her son, he couldn't sit, couldn't talk, even breathing was hard for him I guess. The son that she brought to our home once when I was a kid, sister usually fought with him because of some toys. God had plan, God took him. She was back to my family but she wasn't as strong as she used to. And she left again. And her other son worked for my dad, and he left my dad, and he tried to suicide. She was a widow, divorced from her husband. Can't believe how hard her life back then. And finally somebody told us that she became a traditional wedding singer in her village. I think she was happy. Grew old with her daughters and sons and grandchildren and didn't work as maid anymore. She successfully educated her daughters and sons became a worker, not a maid like her.

She taught me a lot. She was like my secondary parents at home. She took care of me and my sister. She was the one who taught me that "Don't think too much about small things". She helped my parents rise me. Suddenly I remember the song that she always sing, it wasn't dangdut music, it was religious music. I remember she asked if she can keep the cassette for herself or not, and my sister gave it to her. The lyrics was like "Sepohon kayu daunnya rimbun, lebat bunganya serta buahnya. Walaupun hidup seribu tahun kalau tak sembahyang apa gunanya? Walaupun hidup seribu tahun kalau tak sembahyang apa gunanya?" ("A leafy tree, with a lot of flowers and fruits. What's the purpose of living if you're not pray though you live for a thousand years?"). I will always keep that on my mind and my heart, Bik.

Some people said that it's better if people died because of illness, at least we are ready if someday they're gone. At least they are saying goodbye. At least we are saying goodbye.
She never say goodbye to us. That's why in my religion we should have to keep 'tali silaturahmi' to all people we know.

One day when I was a kid, I promised to her that I will give her a gift when I grown up and already have job someday. And now, this is the Someday. I don't get a chance to do my promise because she's already gone. I told my Mum about this and she said just give the gifts to her daughters and sons and grandchildren. Yes I will. And I pray for her, may God forgive all her sins, may God accepts all her pray, may God gives her the best place in heaven. Amen.

I also remember once she said "We shouldn't cry at the funeral. But I don't know why the tears always comes." Now I understand what she meant. Because no one saying goodbye when they are gone. Even saying goodbye is not enough. Because there're no "See you later" in the end of the phrase.
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Fake Friends? Are They Really Fake?

, by aqessa

"People are usually afraid with fake friends."
Photo taken from Tumblr

Mereka bilang teman yang muncul ketika ada maunya aja. Tapi setelah gue pikir-pikir, fake friends versi gue adalah teman yang literally nyari gue kalau butuh doang lalu badmouthing (bukan sekedar ngomongin ya) di belakang dan berteman dengan gue hanya untuk mencari informasi yang dapat digunakan untuk mengolok-olok. Bedakan orang yang sekedar ngomongin lo di belakang dengan orang yang ngomongin lo dan berteman dengan lo hanya untuk mencari-cari hal yang bisa mereka olok-olok di belakang.

Nggak ada yang salah dengan mencari teman ketika kita butuh. Lho, memang bukannya salah satu manfaat berteman seperti itu? Yang salah ketika temannya ngarep kebaikannya dibalas. Memangnya setiap berteman harus deket sampai ngomong dari hati ke hati baru dibilang 'real friends'? Memangnya nggak boleh orang curhat ke orang lain kalau kita sedang annoying buat mereka? Besides, there are a few stages in friendship: Acquintance (sekedar kenal), Friends (yang nyari kalau memang butuh atau kepingin aja atau lagi kepikiran aja), Good Friends (teman-teman yang memang sering main bareng dan cukup akrab), Best Friends (teman yang tau dan bisa menerima sebenar-benarnya kita). Why we are too afraid with fake friends? Afraid of people who's just using us? Are we afraid of brokenheart after we expect them to treat us as good as the way we treat them? I think the main problem is... we expect too much in friendship.

It's not how they're talking about you behind your back. It's how their action after talking about you behind your back. If they still accept you as their friend, they are good friends. But if they're being your friend just to make fun of you and using you, well, they're fake.
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